Naebody in Particular podcast cover: a collage of old family photographs, handwritten letters, a magnifying glass and a fountain pen

Naebody in Particular

You won't find them on a shortbread tin, but our ancestors live on so long as we keep telling their stories. Scots, Yanks, Canucks and the Auld Enemy. Newest posts are the ancestors, but scroll for the living.

  • The Wrong Scot: Ellen Boyle (1823–1866)

    The Wrong Scot: Ellen Boyle (1823–1866)

    For about a week, Ancestry.com was confident I was from New Jersey.

    It had me descending from a woman born in Marlton – which I assumed was in Scotland, but a quick consult of the atlas turned out to be a city in New Jersey, fifteen miles from Philadelphia. The town is named after marl, a green clay full of crushed shell that local farmers spread on their fields as fertilizer. 

    There is no Marlton in Scotland. There never was. The whole thing arrived in my tree the way these things always arrive: a bum merge, somebody else’s bad data welded onto mine by a hint I should not have accepted, quietly relocating a genuine Scottish ancestor to a Philadelphia suburb named after dirt enhancer.

    It’s even funnier once you know I’d spent my whole life certain that it was being a MacDonald that made me Scottish.

    My grandmother was Marion Louise MacDonald — Nana — and honestly her name did most of the work. You hear MacDonald and you picture heather and a tartan and somebody being treacherous to somebody else at a dinner party in 1692. I never questioned it. Of course I was Scottish. Look at the name.

    But my MacDonalds had not been in Scotland for a long time. By the time anyone in my family was alive to tell me I was Scottish, the MacDonalds had been Canadian for well over a century. John @#$@#ing George MacDonald — my great-great-grandfather, the brick wall, the man Nana spent twenty years of her life trying desperately to trace past — was born in Nova Scotia and died in Nova Scotia.

    So when John George was a seven-year-old Canadian, Helen “Ellen” Boyle (1823-1866) was on an actual boat, leaving actual Scotland. Ellen Boyle is on the Parker side. The side with the flat, unbothered English name that nobody ever accused of being from anywhere. 

    Ellen was baptized in 1823 in Troqueer, Scotland — a parish on the west bank of the River Nith, just south of Dumfries, in the old stewartry of Kirkcudbright. That’s Galloway, the bottom-left corner of Scotland, the part they don’t feature on the shortbread tin. 

    Through her childhood, Ellen’s family moved between three Galloway parishes — Creetown out on the granite coast, Troqueer, and Kirkpatrick Irongray inland — the tell of a family chasing work that keeps not lasting.

    Her father James did a stretch in the Kirkcudbright tolbooth, the town jail, which in that time and place held one type of guest: men who owed money. (I looked for something more dramatic. There isn’t any.) He died in Scotland. So did Ellen’s mother, Mary.

    Galloway in the 1830s and ’40s was a place you left. The handloom weavers who’d anchored the local economy were being ground out by the power looms in the cities. Wages collapsed.

    When Parliament studied the misery, its experts arrived at a creative remedy. The government’s official advice for the crisis was for the affected Scots to leave Scotland.

    Two of the Boyle children didn’t need to be asked twice. Ellen sailed to Massachusetts and married Charles Francis Parker in Newton — a Yankee, with no claim on a global heritage in him anywhere. Ellen’s brother went to a mill town up in Strafford County, New Hampshire, married a local woman, and dissolved into rural manufacturing without a ripple.

    The parents stayed, and died. That was the end of the Boyles in Galloway.

    Ellen was built to vanish. Lowland Scots came with the full assimilation kit — Presbyterian, English-speaking, literate — and dropped into Protestant Yankee New England like they’d been ordered from a catalog. 

    She married Yankee Parker in Newton, and then the couple drifted north to Rochester, New Hampshire — the same Strafford County mill country her brother had landed in. And, within one generation, whatever was left of Galloway in them was simply gone: the tolbooth, the three parishes, the granite coast.

    So here’s the full stack, and I’d like a moment to appreciate it.

    The branch of my family that defines diversity as “how many minutes are you outside of Boston” brought me the ancestor with the most recent claim on global citizenship.  

    And when I finally went looking for her, the machine briefly and confidently informed me she’d been born in New Jersey.

    In a town named after fertilizer.

    Sources. Scottish parish registers — Troqueer and the Galloway parishes (Kirkmabreck/Creetown, Kirkpatrick-Irongray), Kirkcudbrightshire. Newton, Massachusetts vital records — the Boyle–Parker marriage, 1843. Find A Grave — Ellen’s death at Rochester, New Hampshire, 1866, the record that fixes Thomas M. Parker as her son rather than Charles’s second wife’s. Kirkcudbright burgh court records — James Boyle’s imprisonment.

  • Nana’s Papers: Marion Louise Macdonald (1906–2000)

    Nana’s Papers: Marion Louise Macdonald (1906–2000)

    I started doing genealogy on 14 November 2018 (which I can tell only because that’s the beginning of my shockingly expensive Ancestry.com subscription) but I had the cheat code all along…

    The big box of Nana Macdonald’s genealogy papers. Which I didn’t open until this past month.

    Part of that gap was logistics — I began on my father’s side, and there’s obviously nothing in the box for that line. So, for a long stretch Nana’s papers had nothing to tell me.

    But mostly it was on purpose. I wanted to make all my own mistakes first. Run down my own dead ends, misread my own records, learn the difference between a fact and a hope — before I asked my grandmother to bail me out. Starting with her answers felt like cheating when I hadn’t earned my own questions yet.

    What finally got me to open it was a wall. I’d hit one. With John George MacDonald.

    John George is a (beloved, I’m sure) ancestor a few generations up the MacDonald side — my great-great-grandfather, which makes him Nana’s grandfather. And I got stuck trying to figure out who was his father. For weeks I couldn’t get past him.

    Every record I pulled either pointed somewhere unprovable or didn’t point anywhere at all. Heck, John George barely existed at all in the genealogical records landscape, so his father was necessarily a bridge or two too far.

    So I opened up the box, looking for a way around him.

    And somewhere in the middle of all those letters and worksheets, it landed: she’d hit a wall too. Same spot. Same man.

    John @#$@#ing George.

    Decades before me, with index cards and postage instead of databases, my grandmother had walked up to the exact same blank wall I was standing at, put her hand on it, and not gotten through either.

    My grandmother — Marion, though the family called her Mike and I called her Nana — was not a casual hobbyist. Over a quarter-century, roughly 1964 to 1990, she filled a box with letters, worksheets, pedigree charts, and replies from archives and museums and clan societies, all of it done the slow way, most of it by mail. (My mother remembers it running back to the 1950s — trips to Massachusetts, comparing notes at each family gathering a good decade before the box’s oldest letter.)

    She wrote to the public archives of Nova Scotia and the vital statistics office on Prince Edward Island. She wrote to Scottish clan societies, to a Catholic college, to cousins she’d tracked down and cousins she was still trying to. She bought books and microfilm. She filled out family group sheets and then filled them out again when a new letter came back and changed something.

    She didn’t only write letters. She walked churchyards copying down tombstones, and made the occasional hopeful pilgrimage to a town clerk’s office only to be told the records she wanted had burned in a courthouse fire sometime in the 1800s. She and her eldest brother made those trips together — the two genealogy obsessives in the family, to the patient amusement of everyone else.

    This was research with a six-week round-trip latency: write the question, mail it, wait, see what the answer breaks. Hope the letter doesn’t get lost or ignored.

    In the past month, I’ve digitized four hundred and fourteen pages of Nana’s genealogy papers so far, and I’m barely halfway through. (There are still five folders of Preble and Haskell records in the box I haven’t touched.)

    Whatever the final number is, it’s a lot of paper for one woman with a fountain pen and a stamp drawer.

    If you spread the pile out, the first impression is mess. One sheet will have a name spelled three ways. Another will have four father candidates for the same ancestor, two of them crossed out. Margins full of question marks. Drafts of the same letter, slightly different each time.

    On the surface, and with barely a date on any of the records to show the passage of her time, it looks like she was someone who couldn’t make up her mind.

    But after months of digging, it turns out every crossed-out name is a lead she ran down and rejected. Every competing draft is a hypothesis she was holding open against a reply she hadn’t gotten yet. Pre-internet genealogy didn’t have a search box that returns ten answers in half a second. It had postage and patience, and you kept several possibilities alive at once because you had to wait weeks to rule any of them out.

    So I’m not here to grade Nana against Ancestry.com. Instead, I decided to lean into reconstructing how she thought — what she’d nailed down, what she was still chasing, and why.

    The families run in a few directions.

    On one side, the MacDonalds and McEacherns out of Prince Edward Island and Nova Scotia, traced back across emigrant ships to Scotland — to Glencoe, by family tradition, and to a Catholic bishop that wasn’t exactly widely discussed. (Nana pulled me aside one day, and looked at me like she was worried someone would find out, when she said to me “I think we have Catholics in our family.”) On the other, the Prebles and Haskells, with their own deep New England roots.

    There are Scottish clan timelines and charts. There are book invoices. There are cousins writing in from Pictou and Charlottetown with pieces of the puzzle, and at least one relative doing her own legwork in PEI cemeteries on Nana’s behalf.

    Here’s the part that gives the whole thing some weight. I never recorded or wrote down her stories, or saw a completed family tree, or asked her a question about her father or her grandfather.

    And the joke, if it is a joke, is that I finally opened the box to ask Nana for help and found her standing at the same wall I was, just as stuck, fifty years early. So now it’s the two of us stuck.

    I’m just the one who got here last.

    So that — *gestures wildly at everything* — is the plan, and why I’ve started blogging again. I chose an archaic channel to post the results from an archaic hobby, built on 50+ year old documents stored in rooms without windows (or boxes stuck on closet shelves that haven’t seen the light of day once in the last 11 years).

    A couple of times a week, as I work through the tree, I’ll post the story behind whatever human puzzle I’m trying to solve at the moment. From my Nana’s side, and from my father’s side (the Tituses … Titusi? … and the Parkers) too. Maybe even a photo or two if I can find them.

    So far, I’ve found a steady stream of people who deserve more than a line on a chart.

    And maybe I watched too many animated movies about the day of the dead (thank you, Book of Life) but it makes me happy thinking that these people are in the happy side of the afterlife because some random old white dude is running through his Nana’s box of genealogy notes.

    God knows what I’ll put up and when, but that’s why I wanted to put this post up first. Now you know whose handwriting you’re looking at, and why I am desperately trying to read said handwriting.

    More soon.

  • it’s been a good run…

    it’s been a good run…

    so, it’s been a bit since this site was last updated. the daily updates stopped in early 2016, about 6 months after my father passed away.

    but that’s (mostly) a coincidence. life got busy. i started taking fewer pictures. adobe lightroom, a subscription now instead of a one-time purchase, started seeming really expensive for someone who was taking fewer pictures. it got harder to sort. it got harder to post. trump got elected — i can blame him for everything, right?!? — so posting effectively stopped.

    late in the pandemic, maybe 6 months ago, i resolved to get myself caught back up. i did — yay! — at least in the picture processing department. i swapped over to Apple Photos, which made everything easier. i actually went out and got a negative/slide scanner, and i’ve started running through a bunch of pre-2004 photos too.

    truth be told, Apple Photos made everything easier EXCEPT getting the pictures onto this website. in the last many months, i sorted 8,145 pictures (since 2016) into 447 albums, but there is no easy way to put them into wordpress posts and get them shared out to the public.

    so they’re locked up in my Apple ecosystem and shared only with the people i have email addresses for.

    but i guess that’s okay. the main enjoyment i got out of the blog — remembering wonderful things that my notoriously weak memory can’t keep track of — i now get out of my TV. i figured out how to get these favorites you see on flickr hooked up to our Apple TV as the screensaver, and the whole family will legit sit on the couch for a quarter of an hour or more watching the pictures scroll past.

    it’s lovely.

    i’ll keep up a flickr account, certainly — pulling together my favorite hundred or two photos a year — and I’ll get those photos posted out in the ether. and maybe, someday, Apple will change their sharing function to make easier to share an album towards a blog or a website.

    but until then, we’ll pause at exactly 3,200 posts over the last 17 years and 10 months. hopefully there will be more, but if not … it’s been a good run.